Iβve been on a big friends kick lately. No, not my all-time favorite show that caused me to evaluate all my relationships in FRIENDS characters (βhe thinks weβre Rachel and Ross, but weβre really more Rachel and Joeyβ¦) - but developing friendships. Itβs something Iβve mentioned here before, and something Iβll probably continue to mention because I think itβs one of the most important things we can do for ourselves. And maybe because I missed out on really making friends in college.
High school? That was a breeze. I attended boarding school, where I led my basketball team as captain and championed change as class Vice President. I was at no loss for friends. But when college rolled around, it was a different story. My first two years were spent at a small, private school in Tennessee where I struggled finding the right group of friendsβ¦but when I finally did, I had already decided to transfer into a state school to save on tuition. Thus started my journey again at JMU, where I made a grand total of three friends. And when I moved back home after graduation, I knew no one.
So I put myself out there. I attended a ton of networking events, started my blog, took time to really get to know the people Iβd met, and invested in those friendships. Not many people start a blog to make friends and develop relationships, but I did. And now, my heart is so full with gratitude for the incredible women Iβve been fortunate enough to meet and call my friends.
I met up with one of these newfound friends last week at WK Hearth, a cute farm-to-table style restaurant in Purcellville. We both arrived in similar casual outfits (obsessed with Laurenβs blog!), gabbed about our foray into blogging and accidentally closed down the restaurant after we lost track of time. Thatβs how you know youβve found a true friend.
If youβre in a place where youβre feeling lonely or friendless, get up and get out there! If youβre a blogger, head to a Blogger Scene event (where I met all my favorite people, including Lauren!) If youβre a working girl (or gal) in the city, hit up happy hour with a few coworkers! Yes, spending an evening in with Netflix and take out is super alluring, but trust me on this one. Friendships bring the best kind of joy that OITNB could never fill.